Why won’t other people change???

*”When I was a young man (woman), I wanted to change the world. I found it was

difficult to change the world,so I tried to change my nation. When I found

I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t

change the town and so I tried to change my family. Now, as an old man (woman), I

realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that

if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family.

Then my family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact

could have changed the nation and I could **indeed have changed the world.”*

*~ Unknown monk*

I have noticed that in interpersonal relationships there is often a rub.  That rub in my experience has to do with my own wanting things to be a particular way, as though there was one right way for things to be.  I find no peace when I persist with this and my relationships suffer.  If, instead, I become an observer of my own desires and attachment to having things be a certain way, I can relax, respond and let go.